Here I am passing the age of 40 where some people call this stage of life “Midlife Crisis”. Well, is it really a “Crisis”?
Actually, to me, I feel it is more of a reality check. After going through 40 years of self-exploration, physical and mental turmoil and personality development, it is the time to assess; “Am I going in the right direction or not”.
A lot of questions should be answered at this stage of life to make sure that you are living a happy, healthy and productive life. Life here is not you alone, it includes everyone around you especially your loved ones, your parents, wife and kids.
Now, what if you are not happy, not healthy or not having a productive life! Should you start panicking! The answer is No. Actually, you should start working on how to change your reality or at least maneuver around life challenges to achieve satisfaction.
If you are not happy, start by looking at what is making you so. If you are married with children, your parents are getting old and need support while you are working in a demanding job, this is not an excuse to feel bad or unhappy; this is life the way we know it. You need to live it one day at a time and plan to make it better the next day.
If you have a health issue or a disability, think twice before accusing yourself or others for that matter that it is your or their fault that you are the way you are. Everything in life is simply meant to be. It is tough, unpleasant, and painful, but never say it is unfair. I strongly believe it is a challenge that we all should accept and work around it to have a happy life as much as we can.
How about your dreams? How about your achievements in life? If you haven’t achieved your targets nor made your dreams come true, is it time to give up! No way..!! Not after 40 years of hard work. Keep dreaming and keep trying until you reach where you want to be or get what you want. But, before doing so, you need to reevaluate your targets and make them more achievable. You can still dream, but when it comes to reality, you need to be practical but never be shortsighted.
Starting now, go back to your life, love your wife, love your kids, love your parents and enjoy every second of it. Work hard, learn something new every day, and don’t give up. Need help, ask for it; start with God. Communicate your feelings but without hurting others. Be free, but without denying freedom to others.
Simply, Live your Life.